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Our thoughts aren’t us, yet most of us until we learn otherwise believe they are and behave according to random negative thoughts. It can be a painful, difficult process to realise that your stream of thinking is not who you are, it’s also something you know already so it can appear to come as no surprise when you fully realise it.

Your thoughts are important because they lead you to have certain attitudes and act out behaviours based on how you think your world is.

The technique below will help you tune into your thinking process and its thoughts clearly and easily. It works by cutting out the exterior noise which allows you to put your focus and awareness on the internal noise and voices in your mind.

Here’s what to do:

• Firstly take a pair of soft malleable ear plugs and a note book and pen.

• Find yourself in a place that is quiet, where you can relax, and know you won’t be disturbed.

• When you’re comfortable with your surroundings, follow the instructions for inserting the ear plugs.

• Now just sit and listen to the internal noise. Write down what you notice, everything is information and potentially useful, so write it down.

• Here are some questions that can help. What do you notice about the sound of your breathing? What can you hear from your body?

• What do you notice about your thoughts…are they louder or softer in your head now? Write what you notice about your most dominant thoughts, are they positive or negative?

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Email Fay for a free coaching call to learn more techniques for mastering your mind at lifecoaching@fayhartwell.com

“Notice and let go of negative thoughts, create positive and happy thoughts.

Why?

Because happy people think happy thoughts!”

This is an excerpt from 7 Steps to Being Happy…to read the rest instantly download the free e-book by signing up in the box on the right.

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Your journal is a tool to use to improve your life and make you feel happier. Remember that it’s to be used. If you ever feel resistance to using your journal, then it’s probably in this moment that you need to use your journal the most. I guarantee if you write through the resistance you’ll feel better.

Here’s a great technique for turning your troubles and problems around:-

Take your journal and date the page. Then write all the problems that you’ve been thinking about. You can just write one word that symbolises that problem to you. It could be problems you relate to a particular area of your life or could be related to a person or persons. Whatever it is, if it feels like a problem write it down.

Be sure to write only the problem, this is a not an exercise in looking for the solution or doing any other thinking. You might find that as you’ve written problems down, you realise that some of them aren’t actually your problem or a real problem at all. Next to these either write, “This problem isn’t mine!” or “This isn’t a problem at all!”

For now let go of those worries. You can add other problems to the list later in the week or month that follows but ensure that you date them.

Leave at least one week or more before going back to your original list. As you look at the problems you’ve dated…

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Problems are part of living…if you have an overwhelming issue or problem then take the opportunity to start dealing with it…email Fay at lifecoaching@fayhartwell.com for a free coaching call to work through your problem.

“A belief which is limiting your potential such as “I can’t do it”, or “I’m no good at that…” is just a thought.

Once you repeat it and focus on it being true the Universe and your mind make it so, whether it’s true or not.

A thought repeatedly focused on becomes a belief.”

This is an excerpt from 7 Steps to Being Happy…to read the rest instantly download the free e-book by signing up in the box on the right.

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Happy Sunday Morning to You!

One of the tools I use that has changed my life is Affirmations. I have many and I’m always finding or writing new great ones. I look at life like this that by using the affirmations the way I do, I’m writing the story of my life that I want, rather than one I don’t want.

So when I decide that I want to BE, DO or HAVE something new in my life, I write out what it will give me, how it will feel to BE it, to DO it, and HAVE it. This way I’m affirming what I want.

This year one of the new things I’m learning is a program called Photoshop CS5. It’s a mammoth, oceon of a computer programme and their are no limits on the possibilities open to me in the art world once I’ve cracked and become a proficient user of Photoshop.

So just there I have something I want! To lign myself up “vibrationally” which means so that my energy is high and attracts what I want, I know lots of wonderful things I will be able to do when I have cracked and learnt Photoshop. Just one of the list is illustrating and writing children’s books.

One of the important things about the Law of Attraction is that we have no control over the timing of our desires showing up, accept of course that we can delay things by focusing on what we don’t want. You knew that right?

So I have no idea when you’re going to see my children’s book on the shelves, however I do believe it’s happening NOW, I can “see” myself doing it, I do have lots of ideas of what it will look like, I know how amazing it feels, I know as I learn and study and keep the idea alive and speak and talk thoughts of being an illustrator of children’s books I will and CAN do it. Not today but one day when all the learning and studying and practising comes together, when all the daily steps join up, I will have achieved and be that person.

So there you have it a little of the energy I am vibrating when I think of Photoshop and where it’s taking me! Wow, it’s exciting stuff and I’ve committed even more of me to my dream because I’m sharing it with you now.

My advice is focus on the feelings, see who you’ll be and believe it is happening!

It’s not the money you want it’s the freedom, the experiences…it’s not the car it’s who you’ll be with the car!

It’s not Photoshop it’s the illustrator I am becoming as I learn and develop.

This week’s Inspiration for Sunday is a short clip that you can use everyday to change your vibration to one of “attracting” and not denying what you want.

It’s full of great affirmations that you can write down and use, and the music is one of my favourites. Remember to turn it up LOUD!

Thinking of you and sending you the energy needed to reach your dreams!

As we grow up we are taught that knowing everything is a good thing. Unfortunately this belief secretly limits us and causes us stress.

This is especially in the world of work, where we’re expected to know everything about our jobs, place of work, people there and how it all works. In some cases we get rewarded for the more we know.

You can become much more confident in yourself by holding a belief that not knowing is liberating. Not knowing can bring relief to you and the people around you.

Having to know everything leads us to be mind readers, so we think we know what people are thinking, feeling and saying.

Ask yourself how often you think you know what other people are thinking, feeling and saying? We can drive ourselves mad with our made up versions of what could happen based on these judgements. It can be quite enlightening to…

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You can learn more about this principle and applying it in your life, in a coaching call with Fay, email her at lifecoaching@fayhartwell.com

“We think from 60,000 to 90,000 thoughts every day.

The reason why many people aren’t as happy as they would like to be is that they are thinking the same negative thoughts repeatedly.”

This is an excerpt from 7 Steps to Being Happy…to read the rest instantly download the free e-book by signing up in the box on the right.

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When your self-esteem (the feeling you hold about yourself) is not high you’ll enforce boundaries and limits on yourself. You do this to keep yourself safe. These limits become self-fulfilling and living as a person with low self-esteem is who you think you are and okay for you. You believe the limits are real and act accordingly, thinking you can’t do what you want to do. You become the biggest block to growth in your life. What you want is pushed further away by the one person you need to be on your side. You!

Low self-esteem can be changed. It’s a way of life at the moment, but with the right approach it can be overcome. Once a person learns that the process of thinking and feeling isn’t permanent and can be changed possibilities for having great feelings of self-esteem are a new reality.

The part of you that says you “can’t” is what has been keeping you safe. Say, “Thanks but no thanks” to this part and get help raising your self-esteem. Changing what you think and feel about yourself is very difficult to do alone. The very fact that you have learnt to limit yourself to keep yourself safe is what will sabotage your efforts to be a person with high self-esteem. You need someone to help you gently release the beliefs about yourself that limit your approach to life.

You deserve to live a life without strict limits and boundaries on what you can do. But deserving it is not enough. You must choose it. You must decide that no more are you going to be scared of the things you want to do. No more are you going to convince yourself you don’t want what in your heart you do. No more are you going to convince yourself that it doesn’t matter, that you don’t matter.

You do matter and…

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Now email Fay at lifecoaching@fayhartwell.com to accept your opportunity to learn how to raise your self-esteem during a free coaching call.

“Are you ready to let go of your attachment to what’s you think is wrong with you and your life?

Do This Exercise!

It’s deceptively easy and will shift your thinking.”

This is an excerpt from 7 Steps to Being Happy…to read the rest instantly download the free e-book by signing up in the box on the right.

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This week’s inspiration is a video taken from “Facing The Giants” that really touches my heart and soul and in so many ways.

Firstly, it illustrates perfectly what a Coach can help you learn about yourself and that without a Coach we often give up before reaching the finishing line or even starting. I certainly wouldn’t have done many of the things I’ve done without having a Coach.

The message in this video is also about attitude and how essential our behaviour, our thoughts and our feelings are, in creating the reality that is the life we are experiencing.

I hope this mini story of leadership, believing and never giving up inspires you to reach for your goals in a small way today.

Fayx